Holy, holy, god. Of course I'm crying again reading this level of acknowledgement it's like I need to have an army of Sweet wife seeking horny sex relationship tips angels, just to keep me functioning at this point. And yeah, justice NOT prevail you ARE right about this. My brother said to me, "-, BEFORE you arrived on the scene, this family had their standards and values, and YOU had YOUR standards and values, and obviously, SOMEONE is just beginning to understand what HIS perhaps SHOULD have been, and the others are still 'performing' and YOU (meaning, me) are in THEIR performance you're outnumbered. GTF OUT of their! NOWWW! The reason why I've been thinking that she'll be exposed, is because she's obviously a real tyrant, and has a menacing MO. But if you silhoutte her behavior against the backdrop of the totality of their lives (and their standards values), well that says it all. Your description of what went down at your workplace? Hey, the same very, very, very dark s t happened to me when I worked for the county. I did become very ill with rashes all over my body I won't expound. That old saying, 'if it doesn't kill you, it'll make you stronger' is true. But the price I paid? I dunno I'd rather have not .I so much appreciate your detailing this all out for me, as the impact of it went straight to my heart. I think I need to give some more thought to leaving Now this sound Pollyann-ish (and I DO have a strong Pollyanna streak in me I'm like Gump in all matters of -!!!), but I need to pray more about this no s t I want my decision to rest solely in my heart of hearts. Maybe I can do it with a set of mantra's and visualizations. One of my friends (after we sat for HOURS over this) told me that she visualized this sister to be STARVING for the that I have, and that I take in stride BECAUSE I have a great family and circle of friends. My friends description made me sob so, so deeply, and I wanted to hug the mean sister in that moment .Then I show up there, and her calculating, secretive nature and tons of BS, is just SO in-my-face! And I forget my sensitivities even though I'm warm, friendly, and cheerful with her. I just can't really give to her, who I can be with people who do not have designs on me. Thank you again, so much, MF. So much. Big.